The D-Word

The D-word...that horrible word that married couples never want to hear...DIVORCE..why is this word so scary- it is just a word right? It is often said in times of frustration..hurt....or anger..but that word can leave an emotional scar the size of the grand canyon. It causes such pain and floods of tears. Why is it so scary? Unless your spouse actually says- "I want a divorce" it is just a word right? Wrong- it brings up so many emotions- why did they say that word? Did they mean? Would he/she really leave me? Can we fix this? Are they right?  Is is because it seems so easy and common that when that word is uttered that we all clench? Why does it feel like the wind has been knocked out of you? My advice is to outlaw that word in your marriage- Make it so that you can't/won't say it in an argument- that is one of those words that can not just be taken back or erased- it will overshadow everything you say and do for awhile after- petrifying you- being overly cautious in everything you say and do- and can drive a large wedge between you and your spouse- Just a word huh? Sticks and Stones right?  WRONG- Emotional scars heal slower than the physical ones- watch what you say- you never know if you can really take it back.