Ideal and Real

Do we ever find the courage to be our true-ideal selves? Is that possible? Is our ideal selves who we should strive for, or is it better to accept yourself as you are? How do you know who you are now is the person you really should be or are meant to be? I know I can't possibly be the only one that wonders that. I know you too have dreams of your "other" lives. The "If only.." game is a game everyone plays. If only I was thinner, I only I could have gotten an audition, if only I had the courage....the list goes on and on and varies for everyone. I know in a perfect world I would love everything about me...and not be so overly passionate about everything- than I could fall in love with one thing and full enjoy it. I know that is  kind of an odd request, but if you know me- you understand what I mean. Really I kind of wish that for everyone..To find their true love and that one passion that keeps them going everyday- that thing that makes life worth living. I still wonder why that is so hard to grasp? Why is it so hard to be true to ourselves? to our thoughts? to our hearts?